I noticed that there are a lot of people have of misconceptions about work at home parents. There’s more of us now than before but for the most part, we’re still a minority. People can relate to stay at home parents and working parents but what about parents that’s basically a mismash of both. Are our lives easier or harder than our stay at home and working counterparts? Has his made us better (or worse) parents? To help clear the air, here are 5 things that we, work at home parents, think that people in general need to know about us.
- We’re full time parents AND full time workers. We still do most of the child rearing and housekeeping while keeping full time (or part time) jobs. And because we do both, it means we can’t do everything perfectly each and every time. Most days, our homes will look like a disaster area. And more often than not, we have to work longer hours to make up for the time spent taking care of our home and kids.
- Despite the fact that we’re home all day, We still need full time help. Just
because we’re at home all day doesn’t mean we can do all the chores. We need blocks of time when we can be productive and focused on our work. Its simply not possible for us to do all the chores and work full time. Not having to worry about one chore helps a lot and goes a long way to making us more productive.
- We need supportive spouses/partners/family members to make this possible. We can’t deny that we experience a lot of perks being work at home parents, but this is only possible because of the support from people around us. Our spouses/partners often take up more responsibilities and also make allowances that allow us to work while at home.
- We sacrifice a lot of our personal time for work and family. I actually work 7 days a week. It’s just not obvious because I wait until my daughter is asleep before I start working. I do this because I want my husband and daughter to feel like they have me exclusively on the weekends. Ironically, this means I have to sacrifice sleeping on the weekends; on the days when I’m supposed to be relaxing.
- We NEED our routines, that’s why we get irritated when they’re disrupted. Routines allow us to give as much as we can to our families and our jobs. So when our routines are suddenly disrupted, we often lose our bearings. Yes, this makes us complete control freaks. We often can’t afford to do fun, spontaneous things because that would mean we’ll be hours behind our work or our chores. We still want to have fun, but ideally it has to be planned in advance around our routine.