Wailings Of A Work At Home Mom

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Missing Nanny 6: The Conclusion or The Nanny Returns

My nanny finally finished her internship and we’re now working on getting things back to normal. We’re still doing a bit of adjusting because now we’re preparing my daughter to get ready for school. It’s a tall order but I think we can make it.

Not having my nanny those past few weeks reminded me that becoming a work-at-home parent really isn’t for everyone. It’s not that I don’t want parents to have more time for their families. It’s just that we, work-at-home-parents, are extremely lucky to have people around us supporting us in our decision to work from home.

Support from our friends and family is one of the main factors that allow us work at home parents to do what we need to do everyday. Without support, we’d all be burned out. Without the support, faith and trust of the people we love the most, I don’t think we’d even be able to start working.

But despite our growing numbers, we’re still a minority. There are still people out there who wouldn’t be able to understand why we made this choice. And this means there are parents out there who would want to work from home but couldn’t because the people around them don’t support them or don’t believe that this is possible.

The Other Ingredient

Another reason why I think not everyone is cut out to be a work at home parent is the misconception that some parents have about working at home. They think it’s something that can be taken lightly. They think that working at home is like a hobby that they can drop anytime they get bored or when it gets too hard.

To stay sharp, I attend trainings and seminars. That’s me getting my certificate for completing my presenter training.

Being a home-based worker takes the same amount of dedication as a regular job. But it also requires more discipline and time management skills in order to keep up with the demands of the job.

Sure, you can start out with “easy” jobs. But if you want to make a career out of it, if you want to keep working, keep the lifestyle and find fulfillment in being a work at home parent, you have to constantly challenge yourself. You have to keep learning and be a professional in your field.

There’s nothing wrong with putting your family first. There’s nothing wrong in setting limits with your clients/business/employers so you can make your children a priority. But once you become a work at home parent, you need to have good work ethics. Honor your commitments and give quality work. Show your client/employers and children that despite the fact that you work in your home clothes, you’re just as professional as anyone working in a cubicle.

Conclusion

The past few weeks without my nanny made me realize that it is possible for me to work without one, but it would be a challenge. I’m very grateful to her for the love and care she has shown my daughter, and for supporting me as I work.

The life I’ve chosen isn’t easy. The past few weeks I admit I’ve been tempted, again and again, to take the more traditional routes of either being a working mom or a stay-at-home mom.

I also know this life I’ve chosen is a blessing. It’s a lot of work,  a huge commitment, and requires a lot of compromise. But if that’s what it takes for me to get the best of both, then so be it.


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Missing Nanny 2: The Return of The Alarm Clock

Image courtesy of Keattikorn / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Image courtesy of Keattikorn / FreeDigitalPhotos.net 

One of the things I absolutely love about being a home worker is that I’m no longer a slave to the alarm clock. Like an unrelenting drill sergeant, my alarm clock would scream and nag  at 5 a.m. everyday to make sure I leave the house by 6 to avoid traffic. My alarm clock would be at it again at quarter to 4 in the afternoon, yelling at me to hurry up and finish my tasks so I can make it to the train before rush hour.

Now, I’m a slave to my daughter’s schedule. Still a slave, yes, but my daughter is a kinder taskmaster. She lets me sleep a little longer in the mornings when I tell her I need a bit more sleep because Mommy had to work til late last night. And she sometimes lets me work a little longer as long as we share the same table while she “works” on her toy laptop.

All this is going to change the next 6 weeks as I reunite with my old friend, the alarm clock.

To get some work done, my nanny and I worked on a new schedule. She would take care of my daughter in the mornings so I can work. After lunch, she leaves for her internship and I take over. Then after my daughter sleeps, I sneak in a few more hours of work.

I usually wake up around the same time as my daughter does. If I keep this schedule, I’ll only be able to for 3 to 4 hours tops. So to make the most of the time that her nanny is with her in the mornings, I’ll have to wake up at least 2 hours earlier.

My alarm clock maybe brash and loud but it turns out the alarm clock maybe the kinder taskmaster after all.

It all started when my daughter woke up to find me already working (and hiding) in my room. She didn’t like that I wasn’t there to wake her up with sunshine and kisses. She didn’t like it at all.

And because she woke up at the wrong side of the bed, she didn’t want her nanny to feed her, bathe her, clothe her, and feed her; even though these are things they normally do in the afternoon. My daughter sensed the change and she didn’t like it all.

Good thing my nanny was pretty competent and we were able to get through the morning. I got to work for a couple of hours before she woke up and a little under 2 hours that morning. And now here I am, late at night, really sleepy and still working.

She doesn’t like this arrangement at all.

I know the  episode this morning is probably due to the fact that the change was so sudden. I should have prepared my daughter a little better, maybe had a dry run with this new routine. But I became complacent because I figured it wasn’t much of a change. It’s still me and her nanny, we  just exchanged schedules. I forgot that children like routine and when you change that routine without warning,it can be disorienting to say the least.

I expect a few more morning like this in the days to come. Thank God for alarm clocks.

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Missing Nanny 1: The Saga Begins

I admit that compared to most work at home moms, I’ve been luckier than most. I have a supportive husband and a full time nanny that takes care of my child while I’m working. I’ve been able to do work, have some time for myself, and relax because of my full time nanny.

So imagine my shock and fear when my nanny told me she’ll be putting in fewer hours in the next 6 weeks.

To fully understand my situation, let me give you guys some background. My nanny works for us full time but she also attends college on Sundays (she’s a 1st year ICT student). This semester, her professors required the entire class to intern for 150 hours so they could hone their skills.

She’s a really good student so finding a place that would take her wasn’t hard. The problem was the schedule. The company required her to intern for them 5 days a week, 5 hours a day every afternoon.

My nanny and I already have this routine going on. I take care of my daughter in the mornings and she takes over in the afternoon. So basically, her internship would eat up the time when I get the most work done. I’m pretty much left without a nanny for the next 6 weeks.

After sharing all this with my sister, the first thing she said to comfort me was, “This would make a great series for you blog.”

The next 6 weeks are going to be fun for me and my little pumpkin

The next 6 weeks are going to be fun for me and my little pumpkin

She’s right! This would be a great series for my blog. I know how to manage my time and a few tricks that would me allow me to work. The only difference was back then, my daughter was still a baby and now she’s a toddler. I’ll need to learn new tricks, bring  my A-game, and make a few changes in the things I knew would work.

Instead of feeling sorry for myself and worrying, I’m going to put my money back where my mouth is. With a toddler in tow, it’ll be a bit more challenging but not impossible. After all, that is what we work at home moms and dads do. We adapt whenever life throws a curve ball at us, do our best, and pray really hard we don’t screw up our kids in the process.