Wailings Of A Work At Home Mom

The Wild and Wacky World of WAHMs!


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Bringing up Baby While Working

Imagine my baby sleeping like that on my lap while I'm working on my laptop. That was my work at home life 2 years ago.

Imagine my baby sleeping like that on my lap while I’m working on my laptop. That was my work at home life 2 years ago.

It feels like yesterday when my daughter was still a baby and she used to sleep on my lap as I worked in front of the computer.

Those were the good old days.

Any sleep deprived mom would tell you that a sleeping baby is the best present you can give to any mom. And as difficult as it was to balance a baby on my lap while trying to  write three 500 word articles on car insurance, I still went for it and persevered. To this day my daughter still likes to sleep on my lap and she can be lulled to sleep my sound of me typing away on a keyboard.

Working with a new baby was tough. Even though I had pockets of time that allowed me to have a part-time writing job, it was hard because we didn’t have any help. My husband helped out a lot with the chores but most of the child-rearing was still my responsibility.

Another thing that always kept me on my toes is my baby’s ever changing schedule. It’s not that she didn’t have a regular routine. It’s just that her routine  changed as she continued to grow. I had to adjust when her nap times became shorter. I had to adjust when she started learning how to sit up, crawl, call for attention, walk, etc.

They say it takes a village to raise a child. You’ll need that village, especially if you’re a working mom. I’m not saying it’s impossible to do it on your own. It is possible because I’ve done it and I know a lot of moms who have done and are doing the same thing. All I’m saying is that working with a baby isn’t going to be easy. You have to be healthy and in the right frame of mind. You have to be strict in keeping routines but be flexible enough to adapt to changes. You have to learn how to ask for help, be open to accepting any help available, and let other people contribute to parenting.

As difficult as it was, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Working from home, even  with the baby gave me a lot of flexibility and control over my schedule. I was able to give my child as much time and attention as she needed. I never had to worry about separation anxiety, feedings, and her schedule because I’m always there making sure that she’s getting everything she needs.

So to anyone who wants to start working from home immediately after having the baby, my best advice would be to make sure you have a supportive spouse/partner/family behind you. Support from people who understand is what will help you get started and keep on going day after day.

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The Physical Hazards of Attachment Parenting

There are days when parenting feels like going to war. And like most soldiers, parents like to share war stories and battle scars with other parents.

Today, my daughter almost broke my nose. I was helping her wear put on her underwear. She figured things would probably go faster if she jumped into her panties rather than put them on one leg after another.

I first heard the crunch of her head hitting my nose. Then the intense pain. I started to freak out after I saw the blood run down my shirt and on my fingers.

This is just one of the many injuries my husband and I have suffered ever since I had my daughter. It wasn’t enough for her that my body has been forever changed because of the stretch marks and the few extra pounds I couldn’t lose. No, she had to leave her mark on all of us and boy, do they hurt.

To my fellow attachment parents, I share with you my inventory of injuries. If you have any unique parenting injuries I would love to hear about them. Misery loves company and it’s always nice to know we’re not alone as we lick our wounds.

Head Injuries

  • Kicks to the head while sleeping
  • Accidental head butts while playing or lifting the baby
  • Migraines from all the screaming

Neck and Shoulder Injuries

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No children were hurt in taking this photo. The adults, well, that’s another story.

  • Neck and shoulder pain from carrying a constantly moving (and increasing) weight

Back Injuries

  • Back pain from piggy back rides (my husband)
  • Back pain from carrying and restraining my daughter when she has a tantrum

Breast Injuries

  • My daughter thinks my breast are like pillows and that plumping them would make them a more comfortable head rest.

Groin injuries

  • My daughter liked to kick her legs when we put her in the baby carrier and she always aimed for my husband’s groin. We don’t use the baby  carrier anymore but when we do carry her, she still takes an aim at her dad. She also enjoys running into my husband and giving him a head butt down there. My husband often joked that we don’t need birth control anymore now that he has been rendered sterile by the numerous injuries sustained by the family jewels.

Foot injuries

  • The older the are, the heavier they become,the more painful it is when they step on your foot.
  • Cuts and bruises from the toys my daughter “forgets” to put away.

This must be what they meant when they said love hurts.