Wailings Of A Work At Home Mom

The Wild and Wacky World of WAHMs!


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Missing Nanny 6: The Conclusion or The Nanny Returns

My nanny finally finished her internship and we’re now working on getting things back to normal. We’re still doing a bit of adjusting because now we’re preparing my daughter to get ready for school. It’s a tall order but I think we can make it.

Not having my nanny those past few weeks reminded me that becoming a work-at-home parent really isn’t for everyone. It’s not that I don’t want parents to have more time for their families. It’s just that we, work-at-home-parents, are extremely lucky to have people around us supporting us in our decision to work from home.

Support from our friends and family is one of the main factors that allow us work at home parents to do what we need to do everyday. Without support, we’d all be burned out. Without the support, faith and trust of the people we love the most, I don’t think we’d even be able to start working.

But despite our growing numbers, we’re still a minority. There are still people out there who wouldn’t be able to understand why we made this choice. And this means there are parents out there who would want to work from home but couldn’t because the people around them don’t support them or don’t believe that this is possible.

The Other Ingredient

Another reason why I think not everyone is cut out to be a work at home parent is the misconception that some parents have about working at home. They think it’s something that can be taken lightly. They think that working at home is like a hobby that they can drop anytime they get bored or when it gets too hard.

To stay sharp, I attend trainings and seminars. That’s me getting my certificate for completing my presenter training.

Being a home-based worker takes the same amount of dedication as a regular job. But it also requires more discipline and time management skills in order to keep up with the demands of the job.

Sure, you can start out with “easy” jobs. But if you want to make a career out of it, if you want to keep working, keep the lifestyle and find fulfillment in being a work at home parent, you have to constantly challenge yourself. You have to keep learning and be a professional in your field.

There’s nothing wrong with putting your family first. There’s nothing wrong in setting limits with your clients/business/employers so you can make your children a priority. But once you become a work at home parent, you need to have good work ethics. Honor your commitments and give quality work. Show your client/employers and children that despite the fact that you work in your home clothes, you’re just as professional as anyone working in a cubicle.

Conclusion

The past few weeks without my nanny made me realize that it is possible for me to work without one, but it would be a challenge. I’m very grateful to her for the love and care she has shown my daughter, and for supporting me as I work.

The life I’ve chosen isn’t easy. The past few weeks I admit I’ve been tempted, again and again, to take the more traditional routes of either being a working mom or a stay-at-home mom.

I also know this life I’ve chosen is a blessing. It’s a lot of work,  a huge commitment, and requires a lot of compromise. But if that’s what it takes for me to get the best of both, then so be it.


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The Right To Become A Stay At Home Mom

I was really inspired when I read Mia Redrick’s post about a woman’s right to stay at home. It seems like the feminist movement, which was supposed to free us from the restrictions and stereotypes associated with our sex, sort of backfired and created new restrictions and stereotypes that are maybe as bad as the old ones.

It’s not that I don’t value the wonderful gifts that the feminist movement has given my generation. I can’t imagine a time when it was almost impossible for women to have an education, get a job, have rights and own property. I know that there are still women all over the world who don’t enjoy the same rights. And it saddens me that these women often have to lay down their lives just so their daughters and granddaughters can enjoy the rights that I take for granted.

But it’s also frustrating to see how our fight for quality has also resulted in us undervaluing what is probably our biggest role in mankind: motherhood. Why do we think that a woman’s talent is “wasted” when she chooses to stay at home  instead of going back to work? Why do we think that a woman “isn’t working hard enough” when she chooses to spend only 8 hours at work instead of 10-12 hours? Why are we disappointed when we see women who find more joy and contentment tending to their families instead of focusing our careers? Why are we shaming these women who make these choices instead of celebrating the fact that we finally have all these choices at our disposal?

The feminist movement started in order to give women the freedom to choose

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A moment worth staying at home for: watching my daughter read while sitting on her throne.

how they want to live their lives. I hope society starts to see the value of women as a whole. We’re not just workers and citizens; we’re mothers, partners and wives. Our talents are not wasted when we leave our jobs. We don’t stop contributing to society when stop working. We help by trying to raise our children the best way we can.  We help by giving way for other women to shine in the jobs or careers that we left behind. We help by exploring new, different, and better ways to improve our skills and talents; like becoming a work at home mom.

I’m really happy I read this. It made me feel more confident about the choices I made in my life. And I now know how to answer the next time someone asks me, “What is a smart girl like you doing home?”

“Being a mom.”