Wailings Of A Work At Home Mom

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When Are You Going To Get A Real Job – How To Deal With Unwanted Advice

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One of the things that always comes up in discussion whenever I’m with my friends who also work online is how a lot of people can’t seem to help themselves and tell us that we should get a “real” job.

It doesn’t matter that I’m earning more now than I did in my old office job. It doesn’t matter that I’m working 40 hours a week. It doesn’t matter that I have a fulfilling career. It doesn’t matter that I also encounter the same kind of work related stress.

What matters is that I don’t work in an office, I don’t have a title that I could put on a calling card, I don’t have a boss that makes my life miserable, and I’m not wearing office clothes and make up. Apparently, as long as I don’t have those things, I’m not “gainfully” employed.

For the most part, the advice comes from people who care. It’s annoying but I’ve learned how to live with it. For the most part, I know that the advice stems mainly from the fact that they’re concerned about me. They want me to have my own money. They want me to help my husband with our finances. They want me to feel fulfilled. And those who care are usually happy with this response:

Thanks you for the advice and I understand that you mean well. I’m really touched that you’re concerned for me and my family. But this is the best set up for me and for my family right now, considering our circumstances. I am happy, I am fulfilled, and I have a stable income. If there’s something better out there  I would gladly take it. But for now, this is a good opportunity for me and I want to take advantage of it.

When I give them that answer, they understand. They know that they’re heard and they know I took their advice seriously. They understand that it’s not something that I can use right now but at least they know we’re both on the same side.

But what if the advice comes from people who don’t matter. Complete strangers. Acquaintances. People who think that their opinions should be set on stone and anyone blessed with their advice should follow them or else you would feel the wrath of God?

I have a ton of delicious comebacks for that =)

When are you going to get a real job…

…when my imaginary boss fires me.

…ssshhh, my imaginary boss can hear you…

…you see this (my house), this is all an illusion. We’re actually in a real office. That office that you’re working in is actually your house and you’re working from home.

…when I stop making real money from my fake job.

…when they start letting me wear pajamas to work.

…when a real job can do all my chores, babysit, and errands for me.

…when they release me from house arrest.

…when I can bring my fridge to work.

…I’m enjoying the real responsibilities of my fake job too much to quit.

…but I can’t leave my imaginary officemates. They depend on me.

…I have a real job. I mentally project myself into an office everyday.

…once I get the controls of the TARDIS right, then I’ll be back in an office in my real job.

…once I’m able to climb out of this black hole I call my home office.

…when I shop for groceries again. I’m going to get a  real job, with real milk, butter, sugar…

…and miss “Walking Dead”? No way…

…once I find a cure for my condition, real-job-itis.

Please let me know if you guys have any funny or witty comeback for this. Would love to hear how you guys responded to this annoying question.

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Welcome To The Wonderful World of WAHMs (Work At Home Moms)

 

You’ve probably heard of the stay at home mom. You’ve probably also heard SAHM + WM = WAHM!of the working mom. And I’m sure you’ve also heard about what right and wrong with these two types of mom.

Stay at home moms have the benefit of being there for their kids, but most of the time it’s at the expense of the careers.

Working moms have jobs and careers that allow them to contribute to the family finances. But they often feel like they’ve missed out on a lot of important moments in their children’s lives.

The one thing these two types of moms have in common is the regret that they can’t have it all. If you want a career, you need to sacrifice time with your family. If you want a fulfilling family life, your career would have to take the backseat.

That was back then. Now, there’s a new breed of moms. Moms that have the financial security of a paying job or a booming business while working at home. Moms that are there with their kids 24/7 but also have jobs or careers that challenge and enrich them. Welcome to the era of the WAHM or the Work At Home Mom.

Yes, my fellow moms. It is possible to have it all. It’s not going to be easy but it is possible. Let’s all help each other to have it all; a happy family, a fulfilling career, and a good life.